“If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal” (1 Corinthians 13:1 ESV).
These words of the apostle Paul are direct and insightful. If the essential element of love is missing from our speech, we are just making noise, regardless of how eloquent we speak.
In the recording industry, one of the most challenging sounds to adequately capture is that of the cymbal. The recorded sound is often brittle, harsh, and as one engineer put it “icepick” sounding. Recording processes and techniques have technologically advanced over the years, and I believe that some of these techniques can be applied to Paul’s admonition to speak with love.
Self-Erasure
When recording was does on analog tape, there was an element that was actually beneficial to the recording of cymbals and other higher-frequency instruments. This element was referred to as ‘self-erasure’, an inherent compression in tape recording which would generally cause cymbals to sound more pleasant on the recording. In modern psychology, this term self-erasure is used to describe the practice of putting others’ needs above your own. It is generally viewed negatively, as a proponent of low self-esteem and people-pleasing. But I think that there is a good middle ground. In terms of love and speech, utilizing a healthy dose of self-erasure will place the needs of the hearer above your own, and by gracing your speech with love, your words will be much more pleasant to the ear.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3 ESV).
Choice of Equipment
Another important aspect is the selection of equipment, both cymbals and microphones. The proper equipment makes all of the difference in the world. If you’re playing crappy cymbals, it’s much more difficult to make them sound good. This relates to our word selection. Choosing the right words cannot be underestimated. And this careful selection is of itself an act of love. Take the time and effort to intentionally select your words.
“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body” (Proverbs 16:24 ESV).
Striking Technique
Along with cymbal selection is striking technique. The manner in which the cymbal is struck dramatically effects the sounds that it will produce. Think of this in terms of your tone of voice. No matter what words are chosen, if they are spoken in an unpleasant way, they will have an unpleasant effect. Even the words “I love you” can be spoken with contempt and disdain. Mind your tone, it’s just as, if not more, important than the actual words spoken. Tone of voice should be seasoned with love.
“Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person” (Colossians 4:6 ESV).
Polarity
The last point I’ll make is that of the importance of the polarity of the microphones when recording. Polarity refers to the balance between positive (+) and negative (-). Applied to our speech, this cannot be overemphasized. When we’re speaking to someone, we should always balance the positive and negative. Even when having a difficult conversation in which negatives need to be addressed, these things can be addressed lovingly, and there must also be a healthy balance of positive affirmation. In 1 Corinthians 13 Paul states that “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”. Even in light of negative issues, positive things should be identified and acknowledged. This is what love will do.
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear” (Ephesians 4:29 ESV).
So, our goal is to not sound like clanging cymbals at all, by having love for the people whom we are speaking to. These applicable recording techniques can help us infuse our hearts and speech with love, so that our words will be pleasing to the ear.
